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the renegade bride

the wild, wacky adventures of a bridal industry insider +newlywed + new homeowner and (in practice)renovation-maven. Whee!

So, this past weekend, my so sweet fiance was helping me with a really lovely wedding reception setup. It was a beautiful thing, with lots of confectiony-flowers and oodles of details, and I was in a floral design paradise. That’s not really the point of this post– but I felt I’d do it some injustice by not mentioning how pretty it was, because it was super gorgeous. Anyway, gorgeous reception aside, we were in the midst of setting up, and the two recently married peeps had a bunch of canvases floating around from their engagement session and from their destination wedding.  On top of that, they were looping a sweet little video that was taken when they were married in Hawaii. My future hubs comes over to me and says “The place these people got married is freaking amazing,” and I was like, yeah, yeah, sure whatever, I’m sure it was beautiful. He then shows me the canvas. And while this is not the same cliff and tree (this, friends, comes from a Google Search of “Cliff with tree in Hawaii”) it kinda captures the same feeling:

Thanks to the Photographer– Jennifer Bowen— for the image.

When I saw the cliff and the couple getting married there, I was totally envious. Looking at my sweet husband to be, I saw that he had the same kind of look on his face. I’m not going to lie, wedding planning is getting us down. The stupid budget and the details and the guest list are giving us reason to awake in the night in a panic. Suddenly, a cliff and an ocean and just the two of us seemed to be the perfect solution to all of our problems.

I’ve got a confession– I’ve always secretly wanted to get married in Vegas, and many times in the course of our planning I’ve said that I’d be perfectly happy to run off, elope, end up in some silly chapel in Vegas and just have fun with the whole thing. While my future hubs has been a little less than…enthusiastic…about that plan, the trip to the tree place seemed like it resonated.

We’re up in the air on how to proceed. We’ve not yet sent out the save the dates (and they are almost done) because the guilt of having a big wedding and spending what could be a down payment on a house has started to really set in. Not to mention the day-to-day anxiety of figuring out how best to proceed with an out of control guest list and a million and seven projects to complete before the big day. I’m thinking we’re at that crossroads– the one where we are seriously considering tossing aside our deposits and eloping. And I find that oddly comforting…like it might just be our best decision, the decision with the least amount of stress, least amount of debt, least amount of up-at-night-pacing-the-floors-in-apprehension.

So, we have a decision to make and I have no idea where it’s going to go. Readers…share your insights. Talk us down from the cliff, or tell us to go for it! I mean come on, that cliff is freaking MAGNIFICENT, right?


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